Friday, January 6, 2012

As My Dad Once Said, "No dating til you're married!"

I'm not going to lie when I received this book I was filled with apprehension. The title, "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris was enough to make me hesitate. Doubts aside I did read it and when I finished I was just as skeptical as when I read the cover. Harris' thesis is that in order to be closer to God and to be true to ourselves and those around us we need to swear off dating until we're really ready to have a committed married relationship with another individual. Essentially, you can't date until you're married. Which for me is a hard concept to stomach. Joshua Harris stated many reasons that dating is corrupt and no good to us. In the text he lists the "7 Habits of Highly Defective Dating" which are as follows:

1. Dating tends to skip the friendship stage of a relationship
2. Dating often makes a physical relationship for love
3. Dating often isolates a couple from other vital relationships
4. Dating can distract young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future
5. Dating can cause discontentment with God's gift of singleness
6. Dating can create an artificial environment for evaluating another person's character
7. Dating often becomes an end in itself

I don't deny that those can be problems in dating, but it is up for people to recognize and avoid those habits. I don't believe that ending dating will solve those problems. This book is interesting, but not something I would base my life on.

"I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review"

1 comment:

  1. lame! not your review, but the concept makes no sense!